In emergency situations
It happens all the time… we’re much more likely to be ‘attacked’ verbally than physically! Here are 5 basic “dos and don’ts” that will give you an overview of the Verbal Aikido approach, and enable you to manage verbal attacks both effectively and peacefully:
- DON’T worry if you find yourself getting caught up in a heated exchange. DO take the necessary time to ‘recenter’ when you realize you’re not calm.
- DON’T try to dominate a situation or ‘win’ an exchange. DO insert the intention of harmony (at the very least inner) before you continue.
- DON’T take anything anyone says personally… ever. DO consider that whatever is being said could be a reflection, a transfer or a projection of the speaker himself.
- DON’T forget to be sincere when you’re trying to understand the other’s position (Irimi). DO avoid a sterile exchange by proposing an Ai-ki as soon as you detect a destabilization.
- DON’T let the exchange continue further if you have proposed three consecutive Ai-kis and you still feel attacked. DO use all the exchanges you encounter as opportunities to practice and develop the art.
And how do you keep these sustainable relationship development tips close to you throughout your day? OK, last tip: keep them close to you! For the creative and available minds, what would a wallet-size reminder look and feel like? Here’s an example of a customizable one (in French).