“Luke, how would you describe Verbal Aikido ? “
“Verbal Aikido is a way to quickly step out of a conflictual dynamic. It enables practitioners to: Find serene confidence when they feel attacked verbally; Use empathy to disarm aggression; Transform the exchange into an opportunity to develop constructive relations. Instead of perceiving it as an attack, it is interpreted as an invitation to dance, so there is no longer the idea of the dominant and the dominated, just a path to harmony.”
“Where did it come from?”
“Aikido’s founder was Morihei Ueshiba, a Japanese master from the 20th century. He developed the philosophy of Aikido to, quote, ‘lead all human beings to live in harmony with each other as though everyone were one family'”
“So you interpreted your knowledge of Aikido to apply to verbal abuse, which is indeed much more common today than physical assaults! It offers a playful and fun approach that even a child can learn to use. So who uses it?”
“For over seven years now I have been developing this practice, and I had the opportunity to work with all kinds of people children and teens, CEOs, karatékas, engineers, safety officers , teachers, housewives, receptionists…
What had all these people in common? Perhaps the realization that words can really hurt, and the common desire to protect themselves and at the same time preserve the other and their relationships. Finally, all those interested in ‘living together better’ find something beneficial in Verbal Aikido.
What is quite funny is that we often have people who come to be able to manage their relationship with their mother-in-law!”
“If you had a message to give to those who do not know Verbal Aikido, what would it be? “
“People treat you the way you teach them to treat you. You can continue to let it build-up, to justify or counter-attack when you feel attacked, but there is another path: one that you are neither a doormat or a porcupine, but the leader of a dance of well-being and harmony, and the world is your dance floor.”
From an interview with Life & You (04/13/2016)
- What is the difference between Aikido Verbal and Non-Violent Communication (NVC)?
- What’s the Inner Smile?
- What’s proposing an Ai-ki?
- What’s Irimi?
- What’s verbal stretching ?
- Can we really interrupt our reactions?
- How can I get the book?
- How can I learn?
- What happens in the workshops? (example)
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